Sexual Assault: what is it?
Sexual assault is any kind of sexual contact that occurs without consent OR through coercion or manipulation. In many instances the victim knows the assailant; this is acquaintance sexual assault.
Sexual Assault can happen to anyone
Contrary to popular myth, sexual assailants and their victims come from all walks of life. Sexual assailants and their victims may be of any age, gender, race, ethnicity, or socioeconomic group. Sexual assault can occur in heterosexual and same-sex relationships.
How victims often feel
There are as many reactions to sexual assault as there are victims. Some common feelings are numbness, intense fear, anger, depression, feelings of betrayal, and while undeserved, shame and guilt. Victims also often experience sleep and appetite changes, physical aches and pain, increased use of alcohol, and avoidance of usual friends, places and activities. Sexual assault can lead to serious disruptions in relationships, work, education and daily life.
If you are assaulted, some steps to consider:
- Get to a place where you feel safe.
- Consider getting a physical and forensic exam. The perpetrator may have had an STD that requires treatment. An AIDS/HIV test is also recommendable although six months must elapse before HIV can accurately be detected. A qualified physician or nurse will examine you for injuries and collect physical evidence that could be used in criminal proceedings, if you decide to prosecute. Mary Washington Hospital nurses have been trained and certified by the Virginia Division of Forensic Science with administering the Sexual Assault Nurse Examination (SANE) Program that aids the victim with this process.
If the assault occurred within the past 24 hours, don’t bathe, don’t change clothes or linens, and don’t douche as this can destroy physical evidence of the assault.
- Tell someone you trust.
- Report the assault to the University Police, and to the Office of Title IX. Consider reporting even if you are uncertain whether you wish to file criminal or on-campus Title IX charges. You are in control. Additional information about these options is given in this booklet. If you desire, the Office of Title IX (540-654-5656) can issue a “no contact” letter to the assailant barring him or her from contacting you in any way – in person; via telephone, e-mail, or instant messaging; through a third party; etc.
- Seek counseling. Early intervention helps survivors recover. The Talley Center for Counseling Services staff is available, as are off-campus resources.
The following information provides an overview and list of resources for students, parents, friends, faculty, and staff who are interested in learning more about sexual assault and intimate partner violence. Please visit the Office of Title IX for a detail list around definitions, policies, resources, etc. To learn more about the policy to understand your rights and expectations in our community, please review the Policy on Sexual and Gender-Based Harassment and Other Form of Interpersonal Violence (Prohibited Conduct Policy).
Here is a quick link to the definitions under the Prohibited Conduct Policy that include Sexual Assault and Intimate Partner Violence.
On Campus Resources:
- Title IX Coordinator, located in Fairfax House. The Title IX Coordinator can be reached at 540-654-5656.
- For survivors looking for mental and emotional support related to what they’ve experienced, as well as a way to connect with other survivors in a protected setting, the Talley Center offers a Survivor’s Group. Please visit our group tab for details
- Campus Police: 540-654-1025
- CPE Staff – Center for Prevention and Education (umw.edu) or 540-654-1193
- Office of Student Conduct and Responsibility (OSCAR)
Local Resources:
- Rappahannock Council Against Sexual Assault (RCASA) 540-371-1666 provides individual and group counseling, outreach, and information for survivors, family and friends.
- Empowerhouseva.org 540-373-9373 Empowerhouse is a non-profit organization providing confidential domestic violence assistance. These services include a free and confidential 24-hour hotline, a temporary emergency shelter, information, referrals, and advocacy
- Virginia Family Violence and Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-838-8238, available 24 hours
- Mary Washington Hospital is an essential contact if you have been sexually assaulted. Your health and medical safety should never be overlooked. For general information dial (540) 741-1000
General Resources:
- Rape Abuse Incest National Network , includes a Hotline 1-800-656- HOPE
- The National Sexual Assault Online Hotline is a free, confidential, secure service that provides live help over the RAINN website.
- Virginia Sexual and Domestic Violence Action Alliance
- Male Survivor– contains a discussion board and live chat room. Organization provides advocacy, research, education, and activism.
- Men Can Stop Rape, is a website and an international organization that mobilizes men to use their strength for creating cultures free from violence, especially men’s violence against women.
- National Sexual Violence Resource Center, serves as the nation’s principle information and resource center regarding all aspects of sexual violence. It provides national leadership, consultation and technical assistance by generating and facilitating the development and flow of information on sexual violence intervention and prevention strategies.